Breakups with your best friend may be the hardest kind, because you aren't just losing someone you've had romantic feelings toward. You're losing the person you've turned to the most and felt closest to, for a length of time. And sometimes those feelings of closeness stem from a friendship that started well before the romantic relationship. Saying goodbye to that relationship may mean walking away from the person you've been your weirdest, most genuine self with, ever.
There usually needs to be a compelling reason to disrupt such a compatible relationship. Sometimes, it's because one person feels like they are putting more into the relationship that the other person. Sometimes, it's pressure from the outside that takes its toll (we're too young to be getting married, I want to be more independent).
Maybe the fire (spark, butterflies, whatever you want to call it) went out, or maybe it was a small flame to being with. In cases where the passion has made its exit, should you take its lead? To quote Emily Haines, lead singer of Metric, 'If the fire's out, baby, how're you gonna keep me warm?'
As difficult as it is to end a relationship with your best friend, if they feel more like your best friend than your boyfriend/girlfriend (i.e. you have no interest in being naked around them), I think you've got to look for someone who you actually do want to be naked around, (or at least want to dry hump fully clothed, if that's your thing...).
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